Relationships as Opportunities to Grow
What can you do when you want to improve your marriage or close relationship, but your significant other seems to be content with the way things are?
Marriage or other close relationships offer us unique opportunities to grow. Sometimes, though, conflict arises when partners in romantic relationships have different visions of what the relationship should be like and different ideas about the direction it should take.
If you think your close relationship could use some work but your partner doesn’t, what do you do? Well, for starters, you don’t start blaming them for disagreeing with you and neither should you assume that there is something wrong with you. What you can do, instead, is share your visions with each other. Can you describe, as specifically as possible, without blaming or judging, just how you see the problem? Can you describe, just as specifically, what you see the future as being?
Sometimes professional couples counselling can be a great help in opening faulty lines of communication. But, whether you decide to get help or not, make sure you stay focused on a vision of how the relationship will look when it is fixed, and maintain a non-blaming, non-judgmental attitude throughout. It isn’t always easy, but if you can take the emotion out of the situation long enough, the situation becomes clearer and possibly easier to manage when decisions need to be made.
Remember that disagreement doesn’t have to mean someone is wrong, and conflict can lead to greater harmony if it is handled properly.
Getting to the end of another year is an achievement, whether it is in a personal or professional relationship, no doubt there have been challenges, changes and compromise to surmount, but reflecting back is always a great learning curve as we do not always see how much we have learnt, or the distance you have travelled whilst in the journey.
Possibly you are in a different place physically or mentally today than where you were on the 1st January, 2017. That is great and moving forward is important. Sometimes it is faster and sometimes slower, but movement keeps goals and dreams alive. Keeping a log or a diary show you just how much you have achieved, even the small achievements soon mount up.
Plan for the whole of 2018, then break them down into smaller segments, three months and monthly. Keeps you on track and accountable, both very important to get you to where you want to be a year from now.
Be kind to yourself, be true to what you want and enjoy your journey, it is not just about the end result.
Very happy season’s greetings for you and your family for this wonderful festive time, very happy, healthy Christmas and New Year from me and all at Successful Mindset Ltd.
Here’s to your success