Most of us are pretty sharp when it comes to noticing other people’s imperfections and faults, but not always about our own. Some people have the mistaken idea that those of us with high self-esteem think that they are perfect. But the truth is that high self-esteem people don’t think they are perfect. However, they are continuously looking for ways they can improve.
It is people whose self-esteem is shaky who are threatened by looking at their imperfections and weaknesses. They don’t want to know about their problems, because then they may have to actually do something about them and, unfortunately, they don’t feel very effective when it comes to solving problems.
People with high self-esteem know that awareness of a problem is the first step towards solving it. However, they don’t get bogged down in the problem. They have a clear vision of what it will look like when the problem is fixed, and that is what they keep uppermost in their minds. They don’t beat themselves up when they make mistakes. Instead, they use mistakes as teachers and learn from them.
Also, they are used to taking a personal inventory, and they feel competent and capable when it comes to doing what needs to be done to improve themselves and their behaviour. Even when they are not sure exactly how they will do it, they don’t let that stop them because they are confident that they can find a way…and they usually do.
As difficult as it may seem, at first, there is great value when we take an honest look at ourselves. So, gather up your courage and take that look in the mirror. If you don’t like what you see, you do have the power to change it.
Don’t give up your accountability to, “that’s just like me,” “that’s how I am,” “that’s the way I have always done it.” All excuses for a comfortable life, living in denial is convenient, but not always healthy. If you want a different outcome, you need different actions. The buck stops – here!
Successful Mindset Ltd.