Ask yourself the question, “Where am I going?” For most of us, that is a question upon which we spend far too little time. And when we do, it is usually because of some out-of-the-ordinary situation that has happened, forcing us to take a look. Well, let’s take the “have to” out of it, and really spend a few (or several) moments honestly observing where we are going. (Honesty is a key piece in this.)
You might want to write down your thoughts and observations. Journaling will provide you with more insights and “ah ha!” moments than you can imagine. Once you see these thoughts on paper, you will see patterns start to emerge – patterns that may not have been obvious while they were locked inside your brain.
Once you have honestly figured out where you are going, it’s time to decide if this is what you “want.” Let’s face it, sometimes life gets in the way, and we lose contact with those things that we know will fulfill us. Not material things, but letting loose of those talents and abilities that have been locked up inside us.
So, when you have a few moments of quiet, let your mind “out for a walk” and spend some time thinking about what it is you really want – want to have, want to be, want to do. Hang out a sign that says, “No Restrictions” on your musings, just let your mind wander. Write down what you are thinking about. Tomorrow, we’ll talk about the next step in the process.
Now that you have your list of “wants” or “goals” in your different areas, it’s time to check and see how they fit together. Today, let’s talk about goal-setting for a well-balanced life.
When you think about growing as a person, there are many distinct areas you can consider. Do you want to grow as a spouse or parent, in your social relationships, in your job or career? What about your physical and mental health, your intellectual pursuits, your spiritual life? You can also grow in the things you do for fun or in your involvement with your community. Remember, the choices are ours to make. No “have to’s” here.
Have you ever known anyone who puts so much energy into growth in one or two areas that they ignore or neglect the others? This is one thing that you want to avoid. A good way to stay both on track and in balance is to write out goals for every distinct area in your life. While you are at it, check to be sure that your goals fit together in a consistent manner.
For example, you have a goal to become a better father. However, if your career and personal goals take you away from home a great deal, or leave you too preoccupied to function well when you are at home, you might want to take another look at your priorities and adjust your balance.
This is a good way to help you clarify your values too. Make a list of your values and match them to your list of goals. Do they match or is there a disconnect? What is most important to your life? Why? Is that where most of your time, energy, and attention are going? Do you feel that your goals are helping you become a well-balanced person?
Here’s to your success
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