| “The Self in Development” My input on the discussion about whether pursuing personal growth is, indeed, selfish. In my mind, there was no question about it. I believed that we must have a caring relationship with ourselves before we can expect others to do so. |
However, being interested in personal growth doesn’t mean that you are selfish. In fact, it is quite the contrary. In his book, “The Psychology of Romantic Love,” Nathaniel Brandon wrote
In this instance, less is definitely not more. Self-development means being the best you can be and giving the best you can give. It means asking yourself, “If I were living with me, would I want to stay around?” Then, depending upon the answer, you change what you need to change without making a big deal about it.
You see, although there are tremendous personal benefits to self-development, it is perhaps in your relationships that a commitment to personal growth will bring you the most gratifying changes. The more of you there is, the greater you are within yourself, then the more there is to give to others.
Self-accountability and control of your self-talk
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Be kind to yourself.
Linda Sage MA, BA Ed (Hons). DTM